SPECIAL DAY MADE MORE SPECIAL

What makes a special day?

What makes it special for only you?

Maybe it’s your birthday, or your mom’s birthday, or your dad’s.

If it’s special to you, do you share it with anyone else?

These are the questions, followed by the answers.

I’ve known sourpusses who poo-poo birthdays like they’re no big deal.

“We don’t really celebrate birthdays anymore.”

What a load. All you’re saying is you’re too lazy to care about someone’s feelings.

Why not get a little kid amped up about their birthday, or a big kid?

Make them feel special.

For my last birthday I played it down, but that’s not how it turned out.

Instead, I got a surprise party that was a big surprise.

No one said anything, and boom, surprise.

It might have been the best birthday of all because of all the sharing of those who showed up.

Was it a special day? Very special.

 

Those Other Days

If you’re a parent to adult children and they encourage you to ham it up for pictures, this might happen.

Funny stuff. They got me, but I’ll get them back.

Unfortunately they won’t be got back with any evidence showing here because there are rules.

With my group we have get togethers that seem to build on a tradition of being better than the last.

Why? Because I go along without dampening the spirit.

I’ve been called Type B personality because of it, not Type A.

What’s the difference between the two? I don’t opt out because it’s not my thing.

If it’s their thing, and they have ideas, I’m all for it.

Think of visiting family members in the hospital.

Some can’t do it, some make themselves go.

I go, invited or not.

They can’t have visitors? I’ll stand outside the door.

If we’re good enough to keep them company when they’re well, we can keep them company when they’re not is my motto.

What’s it take? Willingness.

Not everyone is on my side on this one.

 

The Biggest Day For Married People

Today I celebrate the most monumental day in my life.

That’s right, my wedding anniversary.

Since I’m only married once, it stands out.

I’m somewhere between coral and ruby as a gift.

My dog’s name is Ruby so we’ll work her into it.

So, what’s the big deal about a wedding anniversary?

A good marriage shines light on others.

It’s a ‘do what I do’ thing.

What I don’t do is get divorced, since we did the ‘for better or worse’ part.

Stay married long enough and those vows take on more meaning.

 

The seven promises of marriage traditionally include:

• To have and to hold from this day forward

• For better, for worse

• For richer, for poorer

• In sickness and in health

• Forsaking all others

• To love and to cherish

• Until death do us part

If you can’t stand up for someone and fulfill these promises, don’t get married.

Any excuse to quit is fine if you’re comfortable being a quitter.

Every day is a chance to walk away if that’s the plan.

If that’s the plan, don’t get married.

My parents got divorced late in life, but not too late.

The new people seemed happy with their decision, but I still think Ma and Pa could have worked it out with a little help.

I think about that, the working it out part, when things aren’t going my way with full throated enthusiasm and encouragement.

My wife has friends that check in with her over the years with, “Are you still married?”

Are they really friends, or drama queens looking for an opening?

My way is to trust people to tell me what I need to know, because I’m not asking.

Some marriages are marking time, dragging it out on painful moment to the next.

Mine is base on giving each other the business and staying sharp.

What could be better on a special day.