SHOWING REAL DISAPPOINTMENT MATTERS

When you show real disappointment, when the crush hits, what happens?

Scientists and skeptics have their answers, Davidpdx has his own, my own.

Did I come to a conclusion through independent research because I’m such a free thinker?

Read a few posts to dispel you of that notion.

I’m more committed to commonplace and ordinary, and finding the good in those fields.

For that I am disappointed.

This is yet another year I won’t make the list of Important Americans Under 30.

I’ve got fake ID, so that’s not a problem. I’m an American, so that’s not a problem.

What could it be?

I’m not on the list of America’s 100 Most Important People either.

Since I’m an American, and a people, I don’t get it.

But I’m resourceful. I’ll check the list of 1000 and 10,000, but I’ll stop at 100,000 Most Influential Americans.

Because of pride? Noooo.

Because I’m not checking any list of anyone on a magazine stand, a website, or on TV.

Instead, I’ll ask someone about the most important people in their life, then write about them.

Or, I’ll most likely ignore their answer because it spurs a question I need to answer myself: Who’s the most important people in my life?

You want to give it a try and see what it feels like? Ask yourself, “who are the most important people in my life.”

You’re asking yourself about your life, not mine, but you get that.

If you can’t answer that because you are a recluse, a hermit, a shut-in, then ask about a place.

What’t the most important place in your life?

 

Let The Disappointment Begin

Before I chime in, let’s go over a few things.

Everyone knows the most important people are your parents, biologically speaking if you know how to speak the science of biology.

But let’s skip them, because I don’t know that language.

That leaves everyone else, the teachers, the neighbors, the friends, and family.

Don’t tell me it’s the driver who let you into a crowded lane the other day, or the bartender who remembers your name.

They, along with everyone else who does life the right way, are a given.

When karma is good, and if you believe in karma as the Golden Rule, you move in a good flow.

Who are the most important people in your life?

Have they always been there?

 

It is important to identify and understand your feelings. 

When we feel let down in our relationships, by our children, and in our everyday lives, that feeling of being “let down” or disappointment is actually, a deeply felt feeling of sadness.

When we are sad we are experiencing the impact of some form of loss. 

Taking the time to pinpoint the source of our emotions, not only help us to identify how we are impacted by the loss, but ultimately how to deal with the loss.

 

The Biggest Disappointment 

You with the perfect life of bliss and contentment may leave davidpdx.

We don’t have room for that nonsense.

I’m the only one with a perfect life of bliss and contentment allowed? Nooooo.

Because no one has it, no one I’ve met or heard of, certainly not you or me.

The biggest disappointment I’ve spotted over the years sits in people who wanted a bigger life and had to settle, people who wanted it all without knowing the effect their yearning had on others.

Talking Heads got it with Once In A Lifetime:

 

And you may ask yourself, “Well, how did I get here?”

And you may ask yourself, “How do I work this?”

And you may ask yourself, “Where is that large automobile?”

And you may tell yourself, “This is not my beautiful house”

And you may ask yourself, “Am I right, am I wrong?”

And you may say to yourself, “My God, what have I done?”

 

The biggest disappointment is understanding, or intentional misunderstanding, when you know someone knows better and claims not to.

It’s not so much the person but the intentional act of confusion.

It’s the pious smile, the dismissive nod, the wave away gesture of making you think you’re the fuck-up.

If you read Davidpdx and subscribe, you’re not the fuck-up, but read a few more posts to be sure, then subscribe.

 

PS:

My most important people? That’s an easy one: Wife, kids, grandkids, dog. It’s a small group.

When your spouse thinks you need a larger group and says she doesn’t want to feel sorry for you in your lonely times, you may need a larger group.

Me? I’m never lonely, and that’s not bragging. I do have a larger group and they are important to me.

They are also low maintenance.

 

PSS:

Make being low maintenance a goal and watch disappointment flee.

Balance what you could have done, would have done, should have done, with what you’ve actually done.

On one side is a list, a long list; the other is a heavy list of life.

Put the first list aside, pick up the second and add to it.

“Boy, you’ve gonna carry that weight, carry that weight, a long time.”