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MARRIAGE BRIDGES GENERATIONS WHO JOIN

What’s the best way to give newly weds the sort of advice they’ll need for a future together in marriage? After the vows and rings, who is best equipped to deliver the last word in marriage? Since weddings are so hectic it all turns into a blur of fiends and family, near and far, young […]

TRUTH vs LOVE WITH A FLAT TIRE

The truth is, one dark winter evening I had a flat tire. Did I say dark? It was raining too, the sort of rain that smears windshields and makes visibility a game of driving between the smears. Did I mention I had to pull over on the freeway between Washington and Portland. The whole thing […]

PORTLAND URBAN LIFE REVERSE HISTORY: FROM 2-17-19 TO 2-13-17

The ultimate joy of aging gracefully is the grace part. I don’t feel a need to lash out at every wrong I’ve ever felt. At the same time I can’t listen very well to others working their own lash. I mean, who really knows what brings people to act the way they do? Well, I’ve […]

FRENCHMAN FINDS WOMEN OVER 50 INVISIBLE

    Is this the man all French women under fifty yearn for? I won’t post his name, but a Frenchman decided the world, at least his world, needed to know how he felt about getting older. More specifically this Frenchman told the world that was listening he found women over fifty somewhat unappealing. This […]

A PERSONAL PRIVATE LOVE STORY, PART TWO

    My biggest goal this year is getting my cancer memoir-70’s dating history-love story to a literary agent, to a publisher, to the book store in every airport with books for travelers who need something to avoid thinking about what could wrong on take off and landing and everything wrong where they’re headed. I’ve […]

ONE MAGIC MOMENT (AFTER ANOTHER)

    This is now it happens, just like this with no exceptions for race, religion, nationality, gender, orientation, or other sharp distinctions of separation.   How do I know it happens like this for everyone? Because if it didn’t happen like this for you, this is your new memory:   THE DRIFTERS This magic […]

Deliverables Packaged For Use, Not Admiration

    People used to the limelight have an instinct to show their best side.   Movie stars know where the cameras are, where their marks are to stand, and what to say.   Call them a spokespeople delivering emotional content to the emotionally starved.   Emotionally starved? Yes.  

MARRIED LANDSCAPE WINNING TACTICS

    We play a game at my house called, “I’ll hire the ___ if you can’t do it.”   I like to think it comes with being married to the right person, a visionary.   Fill in the blank with electrician, plumber, carpenter, landscape crew. As long as husband isn’t on the list there’s […]

PORTLAND 1980: HOW TO SETTLE IN A NEW TOWN

    One song stuck with me on the bus ride from NYC to Portland 1980: The second verse of Lodi, by Creedence Clearwater:   I rode in on the Greyhound I’ll be walkin’ out if I go I was just passin’ through Must be seven seven months or more Ran out of time and […]

THE LONG MARRIED SECRET? WORDS

    Too often we take wedding anniversaries for granted? Who does that? Not those married to a skunk who buys extravagant gifts to cover their stink. That’s the yearly bonus they give for looking the other way.   Just make sure your present is better than the one they bought the other one. That’s […]