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SELF MYTHOLOGY: DEATH, DYING, PAT CONROY’S DAD

  What are the best stories told but the ones we tell about ourselves. From Greek gods to Steinbeck sharecroppers we can be whoever we like when we tell our own stories.   Of course the best self mythology comes from the biggest liars and you can’t believe a word they say, still we need […]

CANCER STORIES: FEEDING PUBLIC FEAR AND PRIVATE WOE

Things you’ll never know until you get cancer, any cancer:   You’ll either be an object of sympathy, or an antenna of sympathy. Or both.   “Keep up the fight,” or, “You’re a fighter,” or “You look like you’ve got this thing whipped.”   That’s what I heard after running Hood To Coast at 49 […]

HPV16 VACCINE IN CONSUMER REPORTS

The HPV16 vaccine article in Consumer Reports pushes hot buttons across the board. It’s easy to understand why.   I’m a father of two, but it’s more than that. Too many parents are overwhelmed with the joy of their own reproductive skills and the bundle of joy as a result. I know I was.   […]

PRE-EXISTING CONDITIONS, pt2: FAMILY TRAUMA

Illness defines family trauma over time and it’s exhausting. Remember the movie Ordinary People? The family dynamic wasn’t defined by illness, but death of a child. It didn’t go well for the emotional state of all. There’s was a sudden adjustment with a lifetime effect. Living with a pre-existing condition, or around others with pre-existing […]

PORTLAND WRITER NIGHT, @WILWRITE, ON WRITER RADIO

On Portland Writer Night everyone’s a writer To express feelings, first you’ve got to find them. That’s what writers do. Feelings about a nice day, delicious food, good company, and a warm bed? Not so much. Too easy. The veneer of the shared moment turns to smugness on definitions. Instead, find the feels for loss […]

SUBURBAN DAD DEATH: THE TIMES, THE TOWNS, THE TEAMS

Explaining suburban dad death to suburban kids Get married, have kids, and if they’re athletes you’ll see every town within thirty miles. The Canby Cougar will bite you. Get ready to be mauled by a Tualatin Timberwolf. Run from the Newberg Tiger. Every town’s mascot sounds fierce until suburban dad death shows up. Then you […]

CIGARETTE SMOKE ‘EM IF YOU GOT ‘EM? DON’T DO IT

    Tobacco and cigarette smoke, the stuff of dreams and nightmares.   The dream part comes first. Light a stick and enjoy. All you’ve got to do is breath in, breath out, and watch the cigarette smoke curl into shapes. Later comes the nightmare part, the regret, the tubes, the hospital smell, the faces […]

WRITE YOUR STORY SOONER THAN LATER

      You can handle your frightening truth, so write your story.   Writers inspired by Inspirational Writers lean toward inspirational writing? It seems natural. Buying Gabriele Lusser Rico’s Writing the Natural Way felt just as natural. Who doesn’t need ‘A Course in Enhancing Creativity and Writing Confidence.’ I know I do. I feel more creative […]

THE CARE AGE SANDWICH GENERATION

If elderly people depend on you, you’re in the Care Age. Ages come in different names defined by the dominant materials like the Stone Age, Bronze Age, Iron Age. Epochs and eras all have names. If you find artifacts made in America before the explorers got here, they’re called Pre-contact, as if everything after early […]

HOSPICE, A DANGLING CONVERSATION

The borders of our lives. Boomers have heard this more than once, others will hear it more later on: The closer people get to death, the more they drop their facade. There’s no one left to impress, no one left to pretend for, no one to juke. Toward the end it seems we get the […]