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MATERIAL CULTURE IN MARRIAGE

October 10, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Material culture before marriage is one thing, after marriage another. It starts with a ring and sometimes that’s it. When relationships don’t work out, there’s usually a reason unless someone dies. This is what happened before I got married:

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PERSUASIVE POWER OF WORDS NOT SPOKEN

August 13, 2023 by David Gillaspie

My persuasive power, if any, comes with words attached. It comes with observation that hopefully morphs into helpful insights. Or, when I swing and miss it’s just another load of ‘look at me’ like my blogging brethren. Let’s take a look together, shall we?

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YELLED AT? HOW TO RECOVER

August 10, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Getting yelled at is not an experience for the timid. But how often do we have a choice of who yells what? Never. Especially when it goes off the tracks, off topic. Then it’s not about you, but them. Goes like this:

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REINVENTING FRIENDSHIP: MIDLIFE GUYS

July 24, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Try reinventing friendship when your main guys move away. It happens, and it will happen more than once. You might move away, they might move away, then what? How do you break in new friends?

Filed Under: What's Up Tagged With: Baby Boomers, blogger, boomerpdx, boomers, contemporary blogger, friends, friendship, guitars, male bonding, male friendship, midlife, musician, new friends, reinventing friendship, Social media

PEOPLE UNITED BY GIVING WRITERS

June 8, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Needy people? You see them all over the place? So do I. I’m one of them. Oh, and so are you. We need things we don’t have. Writers give some of those things, or at least the feeling of giving. So what?

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IMPORTANT PEOPLE NEVER TELL YOU, THEY SHOW YOU

June 6, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Important people need one thing: Someone who knows how important they are. If it’s someone they like, even better. But what if no one feels important enough?

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BOOMER MEDICINE: THEY GET WHAT THEY DESERVE?

June 4, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Boomer medicine comes in the same variety as everyone else’s: What works. And what doesn’t work. But for boomers there’s an extra additive.

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FAMILY PROTECTION ADVICE FROM A DADDY

June 2, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Family protection comes down to two things: Threat, and perceived threat. Both trigger a need. Let’s start with threat:

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HUSBAND SCHOOL GRADED ON CURVE

June 1, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Husband school, if you want to know, has one major problem: The teachers. With such poor examples leading class, who are they to judge? Start with the fairy book life of this former prince.

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GET OUT: WHEN YOU’RE ASKED TO LEAVE NICELY

May 31, 2023 by David Gillaspie

“Get out,” are more than just pretty words. I’ve heard it said before. It was said by a roommate I once had. Here’s what I did: I got out.

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