manners Archives • DAVIDPDX

page contents Google

GENTLE SUGGESTIONS FOR GOOD TIMES

December 28, 2025 by David Gillaspie

Who doesn’t make gentle suggestions? Call it good manners if you know the difference between a request and an order. ‘Would you please help me?’ instead of, ‘Get over here and make yourself useful.’ This happened recently:

Filed Under: What's Up Tagged With: American President, anguish, Baby Boomer blogger, berlin, blog, blogger, boomer blogger, Cold War, control, current times, Eastern Europe, education, family, follow through, gentle suggestions, good manners, history, iron curtain, john kennedy, life in order, Love, manners, MARRIAGE, misunderstood, politics, request, revolution, Russia, sensitive, sex, Soviet Union, stalin, story, suggestions, travel, wife, writer, writers, writing

LOVE MAP FOR MEN AND WOMEN

November 10, 2025 by David Gillaspie

Is there such a thing as a ‘love map?’ Let’s find out together, starting with, “Yes, there is such a thing, and it’s purely scientific.” Now that all of you nerds are on board with science, let’s go. This could be a picture of Anywhere, USA.

Filed Under: What's Up Tagged With: Baby Boomers, boomer blogger, boomerpdx, common courtesy, courtesy, education, engaged, good manners, inspire, learning, Love, love map, love zone, manners, map, MARRIAGE, married, married population, panic, ready response, the right one, together, travel, writer, writing

HOW TO SURPRISE YOURSELF

July 18, 2025 by David Gillaspie

How often do you surprise yourself? A: More often? B: Less often? This isn’t a survey or a poll so relax. However . . .

Filed Under: What's Up Tagged With: Baby Boomers, beauty, boomers, bulldog beauties, community, Coos Bay, coos bay beauties, coos river beauties, culture, dignity, experience, familiarity, golden ticket, grace, hometown, how to, Joel Mansfield, manners, married, material culture, need, small town, surprise, surprise yourself

LIFE LONG LEARNING STARTS WITH A CALL

July 8, 2025 by David Gillaspie

Life long learning doesn’t end with the last school day, the last class, the last good-bye. It doesn’t end with a diploma, a certificate, or a license. Those indicate the culmination of a training sequence, but the learning is just starting. Now you find out what you need to know, which is . . . […]

Filed Under: What's Up Tagged With: Afghanistan war, aging, baby boomer, BOOMER, business, city, etiquette, feelings, felon, helpful advice, high school, improvement, learning, life, life long, life long learning, livability, manners, message, North Bend, small town, turkey neck, Vietnam War, young people

POLITE SOCIETY WITH FINISHING SCHOOL

January 30, 2025 by David Gillaspie

The notion of ‘Polite Society’ brings up images of well mannered, cultured people, living their best lives. It’s ‘old money’, a good vocabulary, and quiet. “I’m sorry,” leads to, “I’m so sorry,” with every other breath. What are they sorry for? As far as I can tell, they are so sorry that everyone else doesn’t […]

Filed Under: What's Up Tagged With: Andrew Carnegie, Army, center city, decorum, finishing school, gilded age, Haverford, investment, investors, J.P. Morgan, Jay Gould, John d rockefeller, joint, manners, merino cricket club, modern America, money, money men, older readers, polite, polite society, readers, robber barons, romantic, social manners, society, younger readers

HEALTH PLAN? WHERE TO START

December 29, 2024 by David Gillaspie

One health plan: don’t get sick. After that it’s a roll of the dice. But chances are pretty good you will come down with something, hopefully not THAT something, the devastating something that shakes so hard that all of the leaves and nuts and fruit fall off your tree. With that in mind, let’s start […]

Filed Under: What's Up Tagged With: Authority, blog, blogger, continuation, evolutionary process, facebook, fun and games, get laid, get sick, gimmick diets, health, health plan, history, hook up, human existence, illness, influencers, involuntary, involuntary celibate, male influencers, manners, media manners, medicine, new science, pity sex, produce content, sales pitch, scroll, sick, Social media, social media manners, troll, twitter, water, water boy, X

YOUNG DUDES WHO VOTE?

September 23, 2024 by David Gillaspie

Young dudes who talk about voting have a look. Some wear a suit and tie, an expression like they’re looking at the sun, and get their hair cut high and tight like the special force they feel a part of. You’ve seen them in pictures, on camera, looking fierce. Maybe they are fierce? Incel fierce?

Filed Under: What's Up Tagged With: blog posts, civic duties, dating, decorum, dudes, elections, ignorance, incel, manners, mcCarthyism, pollution, romantic, self interest, vote, voter, voting, women's health, young, young dudes

FANCY PEOPLE, BUT NOT TOO FANCY

September 2, 2024 by David Gillaspie

My wife and I are not fancy people, but one of us is more than the other. As it should be, as long as it’s not me. I’ve seen fancy and come away with the same feelings each time: No Thanks.

Filed Under: What's Up Tagged With: Broadway, college girls, community, dating, fancy, fancy people, girls, good manners, good will, jean jacket, kindness, main line, manners, Nordstrom's, overwhelmed, overwhelming, people, philadelphia, sex, sexual, sexual tension, thoughtfulness, wife

SOLVING PROBLEMS THAT AREN’T YOURS

July 2, 2024 by David Gillaspie

Solving problems makes you one thing: A Problem Solver. You’ve had trouble searching for your purpose? Not anymore with the right solutions.

Filed Under: What's Up Tagged With: Baby Boomers, boomers, car crash, class action, forward thinker, inspiration, inspiring, manners, mutual respect, old fashioned, own ideas, polite, problem solver, respect, solving problems, toyota, Toyota Hybrid Highlander Platinum, your purpose

STREET SMART ENGLAND, OR WHY THE DOUR FACE

June 4, 2024 by David Gillaspie

Street smart: Leaving the house and walking on a busy city sidewalk. Things to remember: Everyone isn’t your friend, deserve your smile, or wants a hug. What’s the proper facade in public? A dour expression.

Filed Under: What's Up Tagged With: Ben Affleck, dour, dour expression, dour face, England, English, friend, friendly, manners, RBF, street smart, travel