Craftsmen know their work, the ins and outs, the customs and traditions; they know the lay of the land. The good news is you can tell a good craftsman by their work. As a young history worker I inventoried a donation of hand tools used to build the wooden ships of old. The toolbox was […]
LONG RELATIONSHIPS? I’M A FAN
August 27, 2024 by
Long relationships that have stood the test of time amaze me. Call me befuddled, bemused, bewildered. How can anyone do it, let alone me? The first thing is finding anyone able to put up with your crap. It’s works even better when they don’t consider your crap to be crap. Take my wife, please.
REINVENTING FRIENDSHIP: MIDLIFE GUYS
July 24, 2023 by
Try reinventing friendship when your main guys move away. It happens, and it will happen more than once. You might move away, they might move away, then what? How do you break in new friends?
ADULT FRIENDSHIP FAILS TO AVOID
April 21, 2023 by
Adult friendship is a balancing act. They are either too friendly, or distant. Too enthusiastic, or remote. And it’s always ‘them?’ Ok, boomer.
DELAYED SATISFACTION FOR DELAYED REGRET?
October 4, 2022 by
Ask Portland baby boomers about delayed satisfaction and brace yourself. You might hear about training to climb Mt. Hood, or skiing Black Diamond trails, as well as the retirement account they focused on for forty years. Ask about the future and expect a solid take on living for the day. Why? Because they’ve already delayed satisfaction as […]
CONTAGIOUS FRIENDSHIP LESSONS FROM REAL LIFE
June 11, 2022 by
Contagious friendship sounds odd in the Covid era, but what else can you call it? People dedicated to spending time with each other make it happen. The best part is how friendship influences another. If this is your experience also, then you need to answer one question:
NO FRIENDS? SOUNDS LIKE A SAFE LIFE
March 27, 2022 by
During ‘my research’ I came across this gem: “If you have no friends you’ll probably never get Covid19.” This isn’t the sort of research that leads to cockeyed ideas on how to treat Covid once you get it. My research is different than people who say they’re ‘doing research’ but who don’t understand what research […]
HUMAN BONDING BENT BUT NOT BROKEN
January 25, 2022 by
If you over-analyze how life on earth works it comes down to one thing: human bonding. Call it trust, call it faith, because those are the ingredients. As humans we are bound by trust and faith in the recipe for human bonding. Take your car for instance:
MALE BONDING WITH FRAGILE EGOS
January 18, 2022 by
Male bonding isn’t about two guys becoming Blood Brothers. Let’s leave the knives out of it. No cuts and pressing wounds together with intense eye contact needed here. What is needed, though, is an element of trust. Not ‘trust’ with money or wives involved, but that other trust: Trust in doing what’s right. Lose that […]
LIFE SWITCH: IT’S EITHER ON OR OFF, NO ‘OTHER’
November 9, 2021 by
A life switch is not a light switch. We know what a light switch is, the thing on a wall connected to a light bulb. One moment it’s dark in the room, then it’s not. That’s the light switch. Light to dark, or dark to light. A Life Switch doesn’t work the same way.
