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PROBLEM CHILD GETS ALL OF THE ATTENTION

The problem child is only a problem if they grow up to be problems for others. And themselves. Who wants to be a Problem Adult? No one. And yet, here we are.

PERSONAL IDENTITY: WHAT TO LOOK FOR

Personal identity starts the moment you meet someone. You’ve got yours, they’ve got theirs, and the games begin. Maybe you go first and talk about the love you feel for where you grew up. Or they go first and talk about why they left where they grew up as fast as they could. After that […]

MUSIC THERAPY WITH A PINCH OF BUTTERSCOTCH

Music therapy isn’t something I made up to fill the space, though it’s something I’d do. Instead, it’s an academic field and a self-help thing. The part about self-help needs an assist though. ‘Don’t be afraid to ask for help’ is a common reminder from experts. Ask for help? Yes, ask for help. But first […]

WHAT HURTS? HEMINGWAY SAID WRITE ABOUT IT

What hurts? Go ahead and tell me. This is a safe place. It doesn’t have to be a big hurt to matter. All the hurts add up, after all, then what do you get? What happens? I think you know what happens. I’ll go first on what hurts to pave the way.

ADULT COSTUMES OR THE REAL DEAL

Adult costumes on Halloween are not the problem. The problem is the costume adults wear the rest of the time. You know the ones I’m talking about, where everyone looks normal? Or at least normal for them and their friends.

BAR RAG REPORT: HIGHER EDUCATION AND MORE

This Bar Rag Report is brought to you from the the last bar stool on the left. It’s the best perch to see and hear about the events of the day. And then some.

RAW EMOTIONS: HELLO AND GOODBYE, AIRPORT VS HOSPITAL

Raw emotions, unrehearsed moments of reality, happen in two places: The airport and the hospital. That’s where hello and goodbye emotions live that no one plans for. A hospital visit turns into a gut wrenching ordeal. An airport drop-off turns into the saddest day ever. Is there anything to do to prepare for this? No, […]

MALE FRIENDSHIPS? WHO DECIDES YOUR BEST FRIENDS, pt2

Do male friendships need wife approval for a happy marriage? It depends. My wife has wonderful friends. When I wonder why, I come to one conclusion: She’s a wonderful friend to them so they can all be wonderful friends together. If I take a deeper dive into friendships I see most of her girlfriends are […]

MALE FRIENDSHIP? WHO DECIDES YOUR BEST FRIEND FOREVER

For ‘male friendship’ I searched for ‘old pic of best friends.’ What showed up? Images of women friends. If that’s surprising, then you need to know more about male friendship. It’s different than female friendship. How different?

TRAVEL OREGON STARTS WITH TWO BOOKS

Travel Oregon the right way? If you live here you know the drill: Fill up the gas tank, or unplug the battery, and head for the big north to south roads. Take in the coast on Hwy 101. Head out on I-5 for the Willamette Valley sights. Or aim your ride over the the mountains […]