BIGGEST VICTIM? YOU MIGHT BE YOUR OWN

The biggest victim around realizes it after someone else explains why.

Hearing “It’s not your fault,” is different than thinking, ‘It could be my fault.’

Being told, “They took advantage of you,” isn’t the same as figuring out what happened.

Isn’t it strange how the biggest victim shows up at the wrong time and calls it right?

Married Victim

Ronald decided he’d never get married, but he’s lived with the same woman for decades.

“Why not get married?”

“Because if I got married and slept around, I’d be cheating on my wife. You can’t cheat on your wife if you’re not married.”

“Does your girlfriend care if you sleep around?”

“Are you trying to accuse me of something?”

Work Victim

Big John was mid-career in a job he used to like.

Now the only reason he stays is for the health insurance coverage on his wife and four kids.

“Man, it just gets worse and worse every day.”

“But this was your dream job. What changed?”

“Nothing changed. I was out with the boys last week and one of them said I was lucky to have a job that helped my wife and kids so much.”

“Was it the new single guy they hired?”

“Yes, and now I feel trapped. If I left I’d never find a job with the sort of benefits I’ve got now.”

“So your wife and kids get what they need?”

“They get what they need because I’m trapped.”

Economic Victim

Larry dropped out of high school for a job in the local saw mill.

He wanted a truck and a boat and a house and he didn’t want to wait any longer.

After he crunched the numbers for the job he wanted to get the stuff, and that was it.

By day he fed veneer dryers at Georgia Pacific on Bunker Hill, on weekends he and his work buddies drank beer and raced around North Lake whistling at girls.

They all had a truck and a boat and it was the best times of their lives.

Then the mill closed.

“Have you heard? Now they want to re-educate us. I didn’t drop out of school to get re-educated. I dropped out to work and do what I like doing when I’m not working.”

“Are you going back to school?”

“No, but they’re going to pay me if I try so I’ll show up.”

“What’s the new schooling for?”

“They want to turn us into keyboard bitches like you.”

“Computer work?”

“Information technology. Do I look like an information technology guy? Like a nerd? I’ve got a reputation of protect.”

“What reputation is that?”

“Driving my boat like a bat out of hell and whistling at pretty girls.”

“That’s some reputation.”

“It got me this far.”

“What will you do instead of going back to school?”

“I’m thinking of taking another mortgage on my house. There’s some great new deals out there.”

“Those are predatory loans for idiots who lose their house.”

“Not if you’re smart about it.”

“You might be the biggest victim.”

“And you ought to shut-up.”

Writing Victim

“If I knew someone who blogged like me I’d follow them in an instant and leave comments every day.”

“You read blogs all the time ‘doing your own research.’ Do you follow them?”

“I read posts, but I don’t know them. If I knew them I’d sign up on their blog and read their stuff.”

“I knew a jewelry designer who asked his mother’s rich friends to buy his stuff. Do you mean like that?”

“Did any of them buy his work?”

“Not enough, and he hated his mom because of it.”

“Hated his mom? Who hates their mom? No, that’s not the same. This isn’t a mom thing. Everything isn’t a mom thing.”

“There are hoards of momma’s boys who might disagree.”

“A momma’s boy is the biggest victim.”

“You should know.”

“What?”

The New Victim?

Does this sound right?

Once you get on the victim bandwagon it goes everywhere.