ACCOUNTABILITY COACH SAYS STAND UP AND BE SOMEBODY

Accountability Coach is a new job title for a new resume.

If you are someone others consider accountable, you could be an Accountability Coach.

However, if you’re the only one who thinks you’re accountable, you’ve got some work ahead of you.

Do you need an accountability coach?

Or do you need a blog post laying it out for you? Either way, you’ll be better off.

Please continue.

In a recent post, yesterday, I stated that a youth sports coach is at the top of the accountability pyramid.

For the most part, the good ones are volunteers who come in with their kids and leave when the kids age out.

In real life we hardly ever have so much responsibility to make things work out. That point came out in stark reality when I sat in a Man Circle one evening.

My wife and I were invited to a dinner hosted by another couple along with friends of the lady’s brother.

Her brother was a gay man who had lots of friends. My wife told the room I was a youth sports coach. One by one the guys told the same story about the men who turned them away from sports.

The story was unexpected and sad, sadder than the superb athlete who told the same story about their high school experience.

It’s always about the coach who feels it’s their duty to ‘break’ the wise guy, get them in line, make them an example for the others.

You’ve heard that story, the one about, “I could have been somebody. I was good enough, no, better than everyone else, but the coach . . .”

Accountability Coach Call BS

Why is it bullshit to call out any coach for ‘breaking’ athletes? I’ll tell you and you may quote me:

The more you do, the more you aspire to, the more likely you’ll get broken, feel broken, and shock of all shocks, the world doesn’t stop for you to gather the pieces.

The world isn’t breathlessly waiting for your account of how broken you feel, how broken you are. Why? Because the world is already worried about it’s own cracks and breaks.

Your loss isn’t their loss, but, and this is a big but, if you look carefully, you see the things in common. The biggest thing to look for is how to pick up the pieces, get them all assembled, and resume activities of daily life.

People do it every day.

By the way, ‘Activities Of Daily Life’ is a caregiver term for getting out of bed, getting cleaned up, showered up, and dressed. It includes making food, cleaning up after yourself, and helping others.

Is an Accountability Coach the same as a caregiver?

Yes. And no.

Accountability Caregiver

When we’re tasked to do something, and we do it and fail, then what?

Quit? Try again? Lie and say you did it?

Which is the best answer when there’s no room for failure?

Can’t you feel the pressure go up? No room for failure? Ha, there’s always room for failure, just like there’s always room to find a better way of doing things.

Imagine if you had a boss, a bad boss, the sort of boss who cheated, lied, and ripped off everyone who didn’t celebrate their boss-hood.

Then, when you had a chance to speak up after the boss retired, you gave him a pass. Call it courtesy, decency, good manners to a bad man who enjoyed doing bad things. But you give them a pass, then later explain what a bad guy they were.

What does that mean? It’s a broken person trying to pick up their pieces and glue them together in a way that looks familiar.

Their effort is worth noting, because they broke in public. What did they show after they gathered themselves?

When they look like this:

They need an accountability coach.

Check the mirror, look around. They need you.

What do you say?