WOMEN STEER LOVE BOAT, THE REST OF US JUST SHOVEL COAL

 

 

An unmarried man can have a great idea, work through problems, and it will either fail of succeed in some measure. Work hard enough and things get changed.

 

A married man knows this will never happen.

 

Instead of a great idea to dive into to, the idea becomes a conversation. If there’s any diving happening, it won’t be into the original idea.

 

And this is where problems start between men and women: married men can’t understand normal thinking and why they can’t just dive here and there as they choose. Married women can’t understand why it would bother anyone if they added elements for a better outcome to their husbands’ idea.

 

It makes them wonder if the man they married is more of a moron than they thought they married, which makes men question why they even bother sharing anything.

 

If this sounds like you, continue:

 

An unmarried man who dated a girl in high school, dated a girl in college, then actually got a job and a place to live and dated a girl in their new neighborhood, have heard these words, or a variation:

 

“You are selfish. You make me sick. I never want to see you again.”

 

This usually happens when a guy springs a new idea of the girl he’s dating and she doesn’t like it but he does it anyway. It’s the sort of thing that creates hard feelings where words said can’t be taken back.

 

Here’s what happens: She examines her life and decides no matter the shortcomings, she’s better off with the guy than without him. Or,

 

He caves, apologizes, and says he’ll do whatever she asks. Please, please, please, don’t go.

 

Either way is better than dropping the final curtain on a relationship before it runs out. You just never know.

 

On the other hand, the experience of hearing ,”You are selfish, stingy, rude, etc.” is a great marriage prep. If you don’t hear the same things from your wife, she’s still thinking them. Why? Because you are self centered, needy, overbearing, etc.”

 

If you don’t hear that pillow talk now and then, the pressure builds up until it’s too late, and like a Hawaiian volcano, things get burned down. Like a marriage.

 

Married men have learned the true meaning of ‘take it like a man’ by participating in home births, parent-teacher meetings, finding the right color of white paint for a room, marriage counseling, and meeting men dating or married to their wife’s friends.

 

Get married and you may live happily ever after, just don’t count on a smooth ride.

 

If your husband comes up with an ultimatum idea and needs you to approve, stay away from a yes or no response, the take it or leave it. Extend the process. Women know this instinctively. Talk it out calmly.

 

If things swerve off course and he won’t listen, go ahead and call him the names he’s exhibiting. Add a few extra just to lighten the load on one end. If you married the right man at the right time, he’s probably heard worse than anything you’ll come up with, so be creative.

 

And if he is the right guy, he’ll know the swerve is all part of a longer game. So stay on track if you hear, “You suck, I never want to see or hear from you the rest of our lives,” or say it. Either way it’s a plea for help, and you get to decide what to do next.

 

Or not do.