THE FIGHT FOR LOVE?

Not All Relationships Start In The Sunshine When You Fight For Love.

What happens in the dark eventually determines how things work out in the long run.

Be sure that’s what you want.

1.

The guy dates a lot of women. He’s in his late twenties and still dates high school girls. He went to three proms last year and he says you’re the one.

You believe him when he says you’re the one because you know you’re the one. You’re always the one.

Unless you’re a high school senior you ought to be suspicious.

Don’t fight for love.

2.

The woman had a long term boyfriend. He’s still around.

She says they’re over but she still checks on him to be sure.

The two of you decide you’ll be exclusive to each other. After a month she checks in on her ex.

You don’t know what ‘check in’ means, but have some ‘check in’ experience.

Maybe you have a former girlfriend who checked in with you once to say she was pregnant by the guy she met while you were out of town. She got with another guy but still has ‘feelings’ for you.

If you feel like she’s talking a foreign language it’s because you’re in shock.

Don’t fight for love.

3.

Your guy has a friend you like. You and your boyfriend double date with him and his current girlfriend.

Everyone has more fun together than with anyone else.

One evening your guy ignores you at a party to talk to every girl in the house. It’s happened before and you pretend it doesn’t matter. You brought it up once and he said you should grow up.

When the double date guy stops by, brings you a drink, and asks if he could get you something else, you start crying.

Don’t fight for love.

4.

Your girl wants to take things to the next stage. You end up at your place.

There’s a knock at the door. Yikes, it’s the ex-boyfriend.

He pushes in with angry yelling and starts kicking things, pulling things off the walls, stomping everything on the floor.

You step back and he squares up.

The girl screams, “STOP, JUST STOP.”

You wonder why she’s yelling stop when you catch a back first with the side of your head and roll with it. The first kick lands on your upper thigh while the girl runs to the bathroom and locks the door.

“You gonna stop?” you ask.

The guy loads up for another kick or punch.

“Stop now and you walk out on your own. You got your free shot. You won’t get another.”

The guy circles, changes his level. You admire his fighting skills, but not against you.

“You had your chance, man. I’m done talking. One more swing and I’m dropping you, dragging you down the hall, and pushing you down the stairs you came up. Then we hit the sidewalk and it’ll get worse.”

You both circle. On one orbit of the room you open the front door. When he circles by the door you push him out and follow him.

He goes out and trashes a car that looks like his old girlfriend’s car in the dark.

Don’t fight for love.

5.

Your husband is tired, too tired to go out with you but not too tired to work late a few nights a week.

It’s an old story. Last time he was tired you made doctor appointments and had him checked out.

He checked out fine, but still said he was too tired to spend time with you.

Maybe you make him tired? Or maybe he’s tired because of the new girl in his office.

You drive by his work one night and see him in his corner office, the one he said he dreamed of when he first started working there.

He’s not sitting at his desk, though. The new girl is in the big chair. She looks nice. Early thirties, well dressed. Looks sort of like you did in your early thirties. Three kids later you still look the same.

That’s what he says when he’s not too tired to talk. It looks like he’s got plenty of energy in his office. You drive away when he moves toward his desk and the new girl stands up.

Instead of picking up something to throw through the window you go home.

Don’t fight for love.

At the end of the day you lose when you fight for love. Starting the fight means you’ve already lost. Talk to any divorced people and they’ll tell you.

“We fought for our marriage.”

“We fought for our relationship.”

“We fought for the chance to stay together.”

Don’t fight for love alone.