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LONG RELATIONSHIPS? I’M A FAN

August 27, 2024 by David Gillaspie

Long relationships that have stood the test of time amaze me. Call me befuddled, bemused, bewildered. How can anyone do it, let alone me? The first thing is finding anyone able to put up with your crap. It’s works even better when they don’t consider your crap to be crap. Take my wife, please.

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LOVE STORY WITH CLOSING DOORS AND WINDOWS

July 20, 2024 by David Gillaspie

The love story in The Last Rave is a warning. But a warning for who? From a gender perspective it’s a warning for women who want more from their guy. Turns out some guys have bigger problems than women who want them to want more with them.

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AGE APPROPRIATE FOR WHO

May 9, 2024 by David Gillaspie

Who says, “Grow up and try to be age appropriate,” and who do they say it too? Your hair’s too long, your clothes don’t match, and you don’t smoke the same cigarettes as them. But that was a long time ago. Since 1966 we’ve learned how to find satisfaction.

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RIGHT THING? YOU KNOW HOW TO DO IT

May 5, 2024 by David Gillaspie

Doing the ‘right thing’ used to be easier. Maybe is was because baby boomers didn’t have as many choices for doing wrong? I didn’t see a lot of choices besides ‘Do what you’re told’ growing up. From parents, to teachers, to coaches, scout leaders, and beyond, we were told what to do by people we […]

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SAFE DATING OR SIDEWALK SERENADES

March 23, 2024 by David Gillaspie

Safe dating is the goal for everyone brave enough to step out of their comfort zone, get off the couch, and open the front door. Whether long term, short term, husband-wife, blind date, or one of those high school reunion prince and princess things you hear about, safety is paramount. But, if you’re anything like […]

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RED FLAG, OR JUST BEING AN ADULT?

December 4, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Who is quick to pull a red flag as often as possible? The same people who whine the loudest when they get flagged. If that’s you, let’s talk about flagmanship, red flagmanship.

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HORSE, RIDER, YOU, ME, AND SECRETARIAT

November 27, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Horse rider? It sounds like a strange thing to call someone, but I’m not calling. Instead, I’m referring to what I like to say is the magical formula to every successful relationship. When you go to the stables and saddle up, no one is confused about who is who in the role playing department. You […]

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RELATIONSHIP ABERRATION? WHO IS THE ABERRATION, WHO IS ‘NORMAL’

November 18, 2023 by David Gillaspie

The big question in a relationship aberration is who is who? Who is the aberration for the other, who is the norm. So there I was sitting down to a late lunch with my wife talking about aberrations. I started by using a string as an example. String? Stay with me.

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MATERIAL CULTURE IN MARRIAGE

October 10, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Material culture before marriage is one thing, after marriage another. It starts with a ring and sometimes that’s it. When relationships don’t work out, there’s usually a reason unless someone dies. This is what happened before I got married:

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GIVE UP? HOW TO START

January 11, 2023 by David Gillaspie

Give up is what losers do? Not so fast. It’s got other names, like surrender, capitulate, quit. But giving up sounds so final. Why?

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