An updated life, from new paint, new flowers, to new shoes, asks a question: What was wrong with the old life? Like there had to be something wrong to change things? Yes, that’s usually a good reason, but so is getting a different angle. Update, refresh, begin again. Call it one of those, add a […]
OPTIONAL FRIENDSHIP: YOU CAN’T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT
June 16, 2021 by
An optional friendship depends on time and place. But it’s not your time or your place. Tell me if this sounds familiar: “I’ve been so busy I haven’t had time to do anything, but in between my schedule, my plans, my obligations, my interests, my work, my obsessions, my fears, we should get together sometime.” […]
WORKING TOGETHER FOR MORE TOGETHERNESS? BE A FAN
April 23, 2021 by
Working together for change is a good thing. What about married people working together to install a fan? A suburban ceiling fan, the sort seen in sad real estate ads for houses with ‘potential’, got replaced. Her: Did you see the new fan instructions? We need an electrician. Him: I’ve got the same screw driver […]
SUPER BOWL TIPS TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
January 25, 2021 by
Super Bowl Sunday ought to be a national holiday. So should national voting day, national Election Day, but I’ll start with the more important day. I’ve seen the shampoo ad with football players talking about doing things 100%. Here’s the link to Head and Shoulders dandruff shampoo, but this is the important part: “I eat […]
QUITTERS DO IT FOR A REASON AND IT’S NEVER GOOD ENOUGH
January 21, 2021 by
Quitters. They’re are all over the place, but they’re hard to see. Hard to see because being a quitter isn’t the sort of badge people wear with pride. Sure, quitters can be positive, like quitting cigarettes, but that’s not what we’re here to talk about. In this post the focus is on The Big Quit, […]
HUSBAND DRINKING: HOW TO SNEAK OUT FOR BEERS THE RIGHT WAY
September 13, 2020 by
Two men walked into a bar for some husband drinking, a couple of silhouettes in the glaring sun. They looked like two weekend yard guys at happy hour, jeans and t-shirts, mid-fifties. In different clothes they’d fit in at any country club. Tight haircuts and smooth shaves do that. One ordered a Black and Tan, […]
BEER DRINKING THE HARD WAY WITH A FAIR FATHER
September 8, 2020 by
Most times, when it comes to beer drinking, you need a plan. The easy part is when and where. Then it gets tougher. Which beer to drink has become an identity check. In a place like Portland Beer City, a beer identity means everything. Beer cred means never getting caught with a commercial light beer. […]
FAKE LIFE: HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE BEING DEKED OUT
August 22, 2020 by
Living a fake life, a double life or more, comes with a few problems when you’re found out. And you will be found out since people like to talk. But what if you’re on the receiving end of a fake life scammer? Who do you blame? Not yourself.
STORY TIME STORY WITH DAVE, OR IS IT DAVID
April 1, 2020 by
Story time begins with tradition. What tradition, you ask? All good stories begin the same. They might still be good stories, but not classic Story Time. Once Upon A Time:
HUSBAND CLASS 101: THREE MOST IMPORTANT WORDS
October 21, 2019 by
The most important words to remember after the “I do” that started Husband Class in the beginning? Not the Big Three: “I love you,” with all of the emotional freight. Those three words promise the universe; the other three fill in the blanks. Three words: “Yes, I will.” If it sounds like work, you’re right, […]
