LOVE LIFE WITH NO LOVE IN SIGHT?

A love life for rising generations comes with so many choices.

And questions.

With so many alternatives, some guys just give up.

Then what?

Dear Young Men,

Giving up on your love life is not a good idea.

Neither is giving up on yourself.

Don’t be a quitter, because ‘Quitters never win, and winners never quit.’

If you’ve never heard that, then you probably didn’t play high school football on a losing team.

We weren’t quitters back then, but we weren’t winners either.

I blamed the coaches. Consider this halftime pep talk:

“You’re getting killed out there. Do you know why? Because too many of you are focused on the after game dance instead of the game.”

That was some old man, probably in his forties, trying to fire up the troops.

Never mention the after game dance at halftime. If we weren’t thinking about it before, we sure were then.

Why? Because we had a love life. It was the early 70’s. Everyone had a love life, even if they didn’t.

Talking About My Generation

Girls in the early 70’s had more to deal with than young women today.

It was the hair, the hair spray, Roe v Wade, The Pill, and young dudes looking down the barrel of the Vietnam War draft.

I graduated from high school in 1973. More than a few of the guys had Vietnam Vet brothers.

Girls back then had to deal with guys in a hurry to grow up, guys on a tight time schedule, guys who didn’t want to die without living.

At least that was the story they told.

And it was a good story.

“I’ll go to the induction center and get sent to Vietnam. I’ll be one of those poor bastards who will never know the kindness of a good woman, never have a love life to think about while I’m in some sweaty fighting hole in the jungle. That will be my life after tonight.”

Was there some guilt tripping going on? What do you think?

Then the draft ended and Lance Romance needed a new line.

Lost Lines Of Love Life Communication

Instead of complaining about no love life, up your game.

If not, you’ll spend time with rubbing compound for a spotted dick and a traditional shellac finish.

Talk to your loser friends about it. Which would you rather complain about, Little Suzy making you wait, or single ply bathroom tissue that’s not Charmin Soft?

When your fellow dudes start giving advice on what Ultra Soft really means, that’s your future.

The only way to avoid it is finding a woman whose voice doesn’t annoy you, and listening to her.

I checked this blog and I’ve written about love for 100 pages. Each page has ten posts, so you might call me a love expert.

My wife doesn’t, but you can.

From an expert: Women don’t want to hear about your trials and tribulations, your Mom, or the dog that ran away.

You’re a guy, remember? If you ask someone out, be open to listen about their trials and tribulations. And their cat.

But, you say, “I can’t stand mundane small talk.”

Here’s a heads up, tiger: Yes, you can. Otherwise you’ll be reading the application directions on the rubbing compound.

On the bright side, if you find The One, you’ll be boring them half to death repeating all of your stories rest of your married lives.

We all feel sorry for her, not you.

Maybe a little sorry for you.

Incel Love Life Defined

Dehumanization of women, in multiple forms, is central to the misogynist incel community.

On the plus side, no one can dehumanize Spotted Dick.

He frames not having sexual access to women as an “injustice,” a “crime” perpetrated against him, emphasizing that his attack is “retribution.” References to himself as a “magnificent gentleman” and “supreme gentleman” underscore his self-image as the hero of the story.

These quotes come from newamerica.org.

The manifesto also approaches women with a mix of animalistic dehumanization and demonization, asserting, “Women are vicious, evil, barbaric animals, and they need to be treated as such.” The manifesto states that women “think like beasts, and in truth, they are beasts. Women are incapable of having morals or thinking rationally.” 

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The guy went from being a 22 year old virgin to a mass murdering 22 year old virgin.

If you want to share a meaningful life with a woman you love, you can’t do it with knives and guns.

The incel community is just one of the misogynistic groups that exist within the so-called “manosphere” – a web of online blogs and forums which reject mainstream conceptions of gender inequality. 

Others include Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW), a group which focuses on male self-ownership and believes men have been disadvantaged by modern society’s development.

Arguably the best known group is the “The Red Pill” – a Reddit subforum with more than 200,000 members which says its focus is a “discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men”.

What is it about dudes discussing ‘sexual strategy’ among themselves that sounds like the road less taken? Strategy? Here’s some strategy:

Identify a woman you know in a circle of friends, someone who looks able to tolerate a jackass and maybe help them recover.

If you like the sound of their voice, even better, because you’re going to hear lots of it once she finds a willing listener. Which, by the way, is you. So practice.

Showing your listening skills to women helps them think, ‘He’s not as bad at this as I thought.’

Maybe you’re not as bad at other things? Open the door gently.

Otherwise, crack that Coors Light on top of the rubbing compound. Tell it how you feel.

What’s it say back?