HATEFUL MAN: WHEN IT HAPPENS TO SOMEONE YOU KNOW

Does a nice man turn into a hateful man overnight? Or does it take time.

Older men feel a certain pressure, a weight building. When it all goes wrong, when negative experiences stack up and fall over, hate splatters everything around them.

Maybe you know a hateful man? Used to know a hateful man?

If someone has a bad attitude about racial equality, are they a racist? If you ask them, they say, “Of course not,” just before going on a racist screed.

That doesn’t mean they’re stupid, but it’s hard finding another word.

What better describes a man who says, “I don’t have a problem with black people, but these Mexicans need to go back to Mexico.”

The disconnect is pretty sharp.

The Good Old Days For Hateful Man

Ordinarily, fatherhood tempers a hateful man. Their love for a new baby brings out the joy and caring. Everyone loves a baby, loves being a parent, right up until it’s time to do what parents do.

When needs arise, and babies are especially needy, it’s time to act. The daddy who tells someone else to ‘do something’ is loosing the battle. We all know what ‘do something’ means; clean up. It’s either baby clothes, diaper, or the floor.

Tuned-in man does the work. Little sissy bitch waits for someone else. Their kids wait in misery.

The first diaper changes done by dad can be quite literally disturbing. That’s because the initial few poops a kid takes do not resemble the average adult loaf in any way. Rest assured that the first black meconium stools are completely normal. And as a baby grows, their diaper will contain a rainbow of colors and textures, particularly over the first months. The only time you truly need to worry is if you are seeing red in the diaper.

Something happens down the line when the neglectful parent wants credit for what they didn’t do. The general irritation with their life choices transfer to their loved ones. They feel unappreciated, persecuted, and now they have a target.

The missing part of estrangement is the strange reasoning a bad parent uses to trash their kids: “It’s their fault.” Even worse is the warp kids live with when they embrace their legacy.

If you recognize a hateful man, just know that those feelings are not their fault. They’ll tell you it’s not their fault, that they take no responsibility one way or the other.

And their adult kids share the same disconnect. Don’t let the disconnect get you at the end of the day.