GOOD ENOUGH YET?

Have a seat, they say. Make yourself comfortable.

When ‘getting over it’ isn’t good enough.

It all sounds the same. Get over it. Move on. Turn the page.

Maybe you say it to yourself, maybe you hear it from others.

If it’s others giving the push, you know what they’re really saying? You’re a whiner.

In blogger land it’s whining about SEO, traffic, fonts. We whine about topics, trending topics, most read topics.

In blogger land we read experts with free advice on their blogs, which is what bloggers do, give blogging advice on their blogs.

The advice usually comes with read more, followed by read more some more, then read more than you’ve ever read. Does anyone still think reading is a dying art?

Sometimes we act on the advice, usually not, which isn’t to say repetition is a bad thing when we read more advice.

Then we move on.

We get over it.

We turn the page.

At least that’s what we tell ourselves after we’re caught in a whine. BoomerPdx isn’t a whine blog. It’s not about moving on, getting over it, or turning the page.

It is about being good enough, and that’s not a question.

Good enough yet? That’s the question. And it applies across all platforms, all relationships.

For the long time marrieds in the audience, you haven’t gotten over it, moved on, or turned the page.

Instead, you see your partner as the breath of fresh air after decades, sort of like that first puff of air you used to give before starting CPR compressions.

The breath of life is good enough?

Yes it is, and so are you for making the effort.

For the short time marrieds, take note: You’ll find things about your partner you didn’t know, didn’t want to know, wish you didn’t know.

Relax, it’s not a deal breaker. All it is is another challenge to rise to. Anything less than your best in rising to the challenge is about you, not the problem.

It goes back to the idea of problem solving, where it’s not the problem that grinds you down, but your attitude about the problem.

A better attitude is good enough?

Put yourself in the shoes of one with a good memory of a bad day, a horrible day, just not your day.

You got married and spent your first night at Timberline Lodge. Magical place, beautiful room, and you’re in love.

The next day is Mother’s Day and the news starts about people, kids, missing on Mt. Hood. Now you’re wedding anniversary is tied to an awful event that continues to ripple across time.

When you start your family you’re reminded of those who lost their kids on that day. You don’t get over it, move on, or turn the page. What do you do?

Count your blessings and send prayers to those other parents.

Is being thoughtful good enough?

Some things fit into life better than others.

When you’re the misfit, take a good look around.

Do you really want to change to fit in? You want to change your game?

In the world of behavior modification they say changing your game might mean changing your playground. What does that mean?

If you’re ready for change, you change. It sounds like moving on, getting over it, turning the page, but it isn’t. Just take a different angle to see the same thing differently.

What does Mt. Hood look like to the families who lost kids that long ago May?

Patience is good enough.