EMOTIONAL PAIN NOTHING TO IGNORE

Emotional pain is when you tell your doctor, “It hurts when I do this.”

If your doctor says, “Then don’t do that,” is it time to find a new doctor?

Or, is it time to get to the roots of the problem.

This should not be a mystery.

When it’s your neck, or your shoulder, or your hip, your knee, a hammer toe, lower back, upper back, you can point to the part that hurts.

Maybe it’s your wrist, or a tooth, or your ear.

But what do you point to for the emotional pain of hurt feelings?

Who do you talk to?

You’re too embarrassed to talk to a therapist? Why is that? Is it because you feel like you should have ‘gotten over’ things already?

Here’s a heads up: you will have feelings about things your whole life and not all of them will be good.

Say you’re a woman who married a good man after a bad marriage to a rat bastard.

If you live into old age, if you outlive your bad and good husband, the bad one may make a few memory visits.

With my grandma as a witness, it’s not a good memory.

Relationships come with all sorts of extras. Make good memories while you can.

Emotional Pain Of Failure

Who doesn’t like feeling competent, skilled, or at least enthusiastic about doing things.

If someone is having a bad day, and tells you about it, what do you do?

Try listening.

But if you listen and you become the go-to person for everything that’s wrong in the world, who are you?

You are some child’s parent.

This is a good reminder for those who take on the burden of the worlds problems as their duty to solve:

People age out of childhood. Eventually. At least by the age of thirty.

And you’re not their momma.

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I remember a kid telling me about his tryout of an elite sports team.

Some guys had been on the team before and made friends.

When new guys showed up to compete for a place the friends kicked in.

Friendliest guys you’d ever meet.

They take the new guys out for dinner and drinks before the competition. They make sure they drink more than normal so they show up the next morning hungover and weak.

Their friend got a good night’s sleep and walks all over the new guy.

The new guy leaves with the emotional pain of failure, and the resolve to be better prepared.

But they don’t forget.

The Pain Of Losing

In sports, games are decided by margins large and small.

Would you rather get beat by a lot, or by a little?

If you get beat by a lot, if you get your ass handed to you, it’s pretty clear what’s next:

Do better.

But if you lose by a sliver, you know you were at least in the race. You might even wonder if the count was correct. So you challenge, and if the challenge fails it’s pretty clear what’s next:

Do better. If you’re an honorable person, that’s what you do.

What you don’t do: Spend the rest of your life whining and complaining like a loser after one loss.

Lyndon LaRouche’s U.S. presidential campaigns were a controversial staple of American politics between 1976 and 2004. LaRouche ran for president on eight consecutive occasions, a record for any candidate, and tied Harold Stassen’s record as a perennial candidate. 

LaRouche and Stassen knew the drill. Trump is not following their lead.

Instead, he’s keeping his fans feet in the fire, a fire he stoked on Jan. 6, and continues to poor gas on.

Nixon didn’t resort to throwing a shit-fit two years after losing to Kennedy in 1960?

Except he did, with more reason than Trump in 2020.

Gore knew when the time was up after losing to Bush in 2000.

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Disappointment and heartache come with adulthood.

It’s okay to cry, in case you need permission.

But it’s not okay to meltdown every chance there is and repeat the same complaint and expect different results.

Why does Trump stay on the emotional pain of being a loser in the biggest race of his life?

Because a man pumped up on his own sense of infallibility cannot fail, must not fail, and if they do fail, they must not admit failing.

Yes, it’s hard being cast as a loser in front of hundreds of millions of Americans, some of which were fans of Trump’s TV show casting him as the Big Boss.

He won’t admit defeat because his fans expect more.

More Emotional Pain

This is a man who told an audience for his rally to march to the Capitol and fight like hell.

Men like this, ceremonial men who sign papers and break ground and put their name on things, haven’t had the harsh realities of life visit them.

Yet.

He hadn’t had things happen to people he cares about like the things he’s done to people others care about.

The man has a disconnect from the activities of daily life. He is a ceremony man without a ceremony, and he needs one badly to feel complete.

He doesn’t get to stand on a stage with accomplished people who look away while he spews a special brand of nonsense.

This is a man who needs worshippers, and fortunately for him there’s a swath of Americans in evangelical churches far and wide who consider the President of the United States as an entity sent from God.

I can’t imagine the emotional pain of going from God’s chosen one on earth to a fat schlub trolling the breakfast buffet line in Florida.

What’s it feel like for his followers to see their guy as possibly human?

It can’t be easy.