HOW A BOOMER HEART BREAKS

via telegraph.co.uk

Which generation has the best broken hearts? Baby boomer heart breaks lead the pack.

Remember the first time your boomer heart broke?

Something went wrong. Someone said the wrong thing.

Was it a mistake, a misunderstanding?

Don’t get the shovel and start digging it out. Don’t check your high school year book.

If you cut all of the heart breaker’s pictures out, looking for them won’t help.

It’s healthy to review past loves unless that’s all you do. Then it’s not healthy. But if you look back and see how the experience made you a better person, a better wife or husband today, then give it a shot.

You’ll come away better for the memories, unless you’re one of those boomer heart breaks that never healed.

If that’s you, then you’ve got your own soundtrack. If that’s not you, this post will still shake you.

From the 1970’s until recently, boomer heart breaks echo in sad songs.

Has enough time gone by? Will it ever?

From rock to folk to Adele, there’s something special happening when you let yourself be vulnerable.

750,000,000 views of Hello says we love feeling vulnerable, if not wallowing in it.

Adele’s not the first to pluck baby boomer heart breaks, but she knows where the strings are.

Hello from the other side
I must have called a thousand times

(In the 70’s we’d believe her, but today the calls are all logged. Adele, if you called a thousand times chances are your lover turned off the phone or blocked your number.)

To tell you I’m sorry for everything that I’ve done
But when I call you never seem to be home

(If you had calls from someone who broke up with you, would you answer? Would you want a phone call, or should they show up in person?

Say you’re married and a former love calls to say they’re sorry, and you answered on the first ring. Do you

A. Hang up?

B. Pretend it’s not you?

C. Or keep it superficial and have a nice chat?)

Hello from the outside
At least I can say that I’ve tried

(Since love is so damn tricky, and your former flame feels the cold draft of loneliness and sorrow, do you owe them a measure of kindness?

Can you choke down any lingering bitterness for their sake? Or are you suspicious of their motives for calling at all?)

To tell you I’m sorry for breaking your heart
But it don’t matter it clearly doesn’t tear you apart anymore

Just because you were kicked to the curb doesn’t justify your anger. You weren’t the first and won’t be the last. Take it in stride as soon as you can.

Feel the boomer heart breaks as they come, but don’t dwell on them. Each time makes you stronger, makes you more able to deal with less personal issues better.

Even if you invite them to your place to meet the family and they say, “Why? So your kids can see who might have been their momma,” be nice.

Your shared past clearly doesn’t tear them apart anymore.

Baby boomer heart breaks happened all the time. You were too young, too immature, too distant, too needy, too something.

It’s always something, and that something keeps hanging around.

Whether it’s Adele calling from the other side, or America explaining guilty feelings, the memory of a broken heart will keep you humble.

Well I tried to make it Sunday, but I got so damn depressed
That I set my sights on Monday and I got myself undressed

(If this call ever happens, brace yourself. Depressed on Sunday? Got themselves undressed? This is an early call from the other side.

Ladies, it sounds like a love song, but it’s heavy regret. Can you lift it? Do you want to?)

I ain’t ready for the altar but I do agree there’s times
When a woman sure can be a friend of mine

(Uh oh, is he calling an ex-girlfriend who married another man, and now he wants to ‘talk?’

Here’s a heads up: He’s calling to see if he’s still got a hold on you. Show him he can’t tear you apart anymore.)

Well, I keep on thinkin’ ’bout you, Sister Golden Hair surprise
And I just can’t live without you; can’t you see it in my eyes?
I been one poor correspondent, and I been too, too hard to find
But it doesn’t mean you ain’t been on my mind

(If you’ve been on his mind, you’ll never know. He can say he’s been thinking ’bout you, but he’s been thinking about the rest of his ladies, too.

When an ex asks you to see something in their eyes, tell them you see floaters and they need to make an appointment with their doctor.

Your former has been too, too hard to find because he’s been dating everything on two legs and only now realizes what he lost in you. Go ahead and explain that to him. Leave his response in comments.)

Aren’t boomer heart breaks worse when loss involves more than one person, like when your girlfriend and your best friend find more in common with each other than they ever had with you?

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